“People are disturbed not by things, but by the view they take of them” – Epictetus #MondayMorningWakeUpCall
- I must perform well
- I must be treated fairly by others
- I must not find life’s conditions very hard
The list is never-ending. These self-imposed demands can broadly be categorised into the above 3 ‘musts’ as Dr. Albert Ellis, a psycho therapist who also coined the term musturbating postulates.
Almost all your stress, strain and pain in life, the universe and everything comes from holding irrational beliefs which invariably include should, oughts & musts.
Hint: Recognize them. Logically dispute them.
Bonus hint: The words you use shape the feelings you infuse. Try replacing ‘must’ with ‘would like to’ or for those who love hyperboling, replace it with ‘would love to’.