Monthly Archives: May 2016

Should you use should in your sentence?

No good can come from ‘should’ – #MondayMorningWakeUpCall


I should have known better!

  • I should toil night and day, even if all I want to do is play
  • I should marry, have a lovely little family
  • I should meditate, become a horny frustrated celibate
  • I should tap on wood to not jinx my glories that have come good
  • I should abstain from meat, wheat and all that’s sweet
  • I should eat, pray and love, cleanse myself only with dove
  • I should chase success, even if it’s the biggest cause of my distress (not to mention I’m chasing an imaginary word that has no universal definition)
  • I should…

While grammatically correct, maybe you SHOULD drop the word ‘should’ from your vocabulary. ‘Should’ is fabricated by parents, society and people who don’t know how to spell your name right.

‘Should’ stunts creativity and stops you from living fully. ‘Should’ is often times what your soul does not want to do.

What you probably ‘should’ do is feel it intuitively or argue it out logically with yourself or anyone ‘shoulding’ you to do something you might not want to do.

Do, what feels right for you, to please yourself. After all you know yourself best. Cos only if you please yourself can you genuinely please others. (Caveat: Pleasing yourself by harming others doesn’t count. Duh!)

Hint: Replace your ‘should’ sentences with ‘I want to..’ and if it doesn’t feel like a chore, it doesn’t feel like you will be giving away a part of your soul bit by bit, then chances are you’re heading in the right direction, at least a direction where you will encounter more smileys and less grumpys when you look into the mirror.

There are no ironies

And life has a funny funny way of helping you out – Alanis Morissette #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

I loved her original version. And I love her Ironic 2.0 version for the new generation. It’s ironic how ironies change, even though there are no ironies.

Ironic 2.0

Ironic Original Version (in case you’re an irony ignoramus)

What’s your maturity quotient?

Move over EQ, say hello to MQ #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

Maturity Quotient

What’s your maturity quotient

Found this definition of maturity provided by Buddhist Lamas doing the social media rounds. Thought I’d play my part in paying it forward and coining a new term that I hope will become a good metric to measure for yourself.

So say hello to MQ or Maturity Quotient.

What’s maturity? According to the definition provided by Buddhist Lamas…

  1. Maturity is when you stop trying to change others, … instead focus on changing yourself.
  2. Maturity is when you accept people as they are.
  3. Maturity is when you understand everyone is right in their own perspective.
  4. Maturity is when you learn to “let go”.
  5. Maturity is when you are able to drop “expectations” from a relationship and give for the sake of giving.
  6. Maturity is when you understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace.
  7. Maturity is when you stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are.
  8. Maturity is when you don’t seek approval from others.
  9. Maturity is when you stop comparing with others.
  10. Maturity is when you are at peace with yourself.
  11. Maturity is when you are able to differentiate between “need” and “want” and are able to let go of your wants.
  12. You gain Maturity when you stop attaching “happiness” to material things!!

You can calculate your Maturity Quotient (MQ) by adding one point for every definition you check off and computing your percentage out of a maximum of 12 points.

There’s only one person who can help you

“When you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him” #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

Help yourself

What this paradoxical maxim implies is that no one but yourself can basically help you, and that unthinking devotion to a master, a guru or cult has great limitations.

To improve, you have to think for yourself and take suitable, self-changing risks yourself.

The corollary is also true with teaching (and parenting). You cannot teach anything, but everything can be learnt. Teaching is just facilitating this process of learning. The real guru is the one who awakens the guru in his students, creates curiosity to learn and inspires to improve.

The only person who can help you is… wait for it…wait for it…wait for it… is YOU!

If you need a little bit of help starting off then maybe this ‘Touchscreen Smart Mirror’ could get you rolling