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To turn the cheek or not to turn?

Whosoever shall kiss thee on thy right cheek, turn to her the other also #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

Non_Violence

A kiss is mightier than a slap

Gandhiji’s philosophy of non-violence is often attributed through the quote from the Bible “Whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also” And it has always come up for intense debate amongst the populace, not to mention, in my super busy head as well.

I don’t think there is any universal philosophy on non-violence that can be copy-pasted. Rather, like most moral existential conundrums in life, different situations demand different responses (NOT reactions).

I like Osho’s interpretation of non-violence:

“I will not say to you turn your other cheek if somebody hits you, no. Jesus can say it because he teaches humbleness. I cannot say that. I can only say one thing: let that moment decide. Sometimes perhaps you have to turn the other cheek. Sometimes perhaps you have to hit the man harder than he has hit you. Sometimes perhaps you have to hit him on both cheeks – but nothing can be given to you as a ready-made formula. It will depend on you, the person, the situation.

But act with awareness, then whatever you do is right.” Read full article here.

And even better, I like my philosophy on non-violence: Whosoever shall kiss thee on thy right cheek, turn to her the other also” after all “A kiss is mightier than a slap”

Invest In Loss

Haar ke jitney waale ko baazigar kehte hai – Baazigar #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

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“It’s better to shoot and miss, then to let time run out and wonder what if” – Michael Jordan

Taking Michael Jordan as an example:

Hailed amongst not only the greatest basketball player ever, but also sportsman ever, it is common knowledge that Jordan made more last-minute shots to win the game for his team than any other player in the history of the NBA.

What is not so well known, is that Jordan also missed more last-minute shots to lose the game for his team than any other player in the history of the game.

What made him the greatest was not perfection, but willing to look bad on the road to basketball immortality. As much as he suffered all those nights when he sent twenty thousand Bulls fans home heartbroken, there was a willingness to put himself on the line as a way of life.

Great ones are willing to get burned, invest in loss, time and again as they sharpen their swords in the fire… and of course, they don’t give up on the way to becoming The Greatest

Adapted from a passage from Art of Learning by Josh Waitzkin

5 parallels between your teacher and Lord Ganesha that you can imbibe

“You cannot teach a man anything, you can only help him find it within himself.” – Galileo #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

“Guru” means the one who “dispels ignorance, all kinds of ignorance”, ranging from spiritual to skills such as dancing, music, sports and others.

Ganesh Chaturthi coinciding with Teacher’s Day today is an apt reminder of why Guru has been revered as God right from the earliest stories of mythology across most religions if not all. And who better than Lord Ganesha, the Hindu God of Intellect and Wisdom, to remind us of this philosophy.

Each of Lord Ganesha’s body parts describe Ganesha’s character and the qualities humans should adopt through life. Not so coincidently I suspect, the 5 parts of his elephant face uncannily represent the qualities that students should imbibe from their teachers/gurus.

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#HappyGaneshChaturthi #HappyTeachersDay

5 scientifically proven ways to achieve your long term goals and 5 ways that don’t work

Expunge the moles and holes in your goals #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

Richard Wiseman, a Professor of Public Understanding of Psychology, has been instrumental in debunking various misleading myths of self-help, by offering scientifically proven advice instead, through extensive behavioural research.

In a column in the magazine Scientific American, he has been described as “…the most interesting and innovative experimental psychologist in the world today”

Sharing a wise man’s, Richard Wiseman’s way of achieving your goals (and 5 techniques that are myths) in case you’re looking to score any.

5 techniques that work

  1. Break down a large goal into sub-goals by making a step-by-step plan (even better if the sub-goals are concrete, measurable and time-based)
  2. Tell other people about your goals
  3. Think about the good things that will happen if you achieve your goals and think about the obstacles that can come in the way with the solutions to overcome them
  4. Reward yourself for making progress towards your goals, celebrate small wins
  5. Record your progress

The greater the number of these techniques you use, the greater the likelihood of victory.

5 techniques that are but myths

  1. Motivate yourself by focusing on someone you admire for achieving so much (e.g. a celebrity role model or great leader)
  2. Think about the bad things that will happen if you don’t achieve your goals
  3. Try to suppress unhelpful thoughts (e.g. not thinking about eating unhealthy food or smoking)
  4. Rely on your willpower
  5. Fantasize about how great your life will be when you achieve your goal

Let’s score some goals that would amaze Messi and astonish Ronaldo

PV Sindhu’s birthday present to Lord Krishna

“You have the right to work only but never to its fruits.
Let not the fruits of action be your motive” – Lord Krishna #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

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Give it your best…and leave it to the universe to do the rest

PV Sindhu lost the gold medal but won 1.3 billion hearts (and I suspect many many more world over). Not so much because she won a rare silver medal for India. That yes. But more so because of the way she fought tooth and nail right through the match. She fought relentlessly, every point, every shot.

You could feel her dogged determination. She just wouldn’t give up. She gave it her best. Nay, she gave it her all. As if her life depended on it.

Yet it seemed she did it in the most non-attached manner possible. It was as if she came to do a job. The job was simply to give it her absolute best and not bother about the fruits of the labour, which was not get blinded by the sight of gold and be happy irrespective of the outcome as long as she knew that she truly did give it her best. This was amply evident from her post match reaction and further validated from an interview excerpt I read on her post-match thoughts –

“No words to express my happiness. My aim was gold when I went in, but never mind. One person had to lose and I lost. It was her day. I played my best and I am satisfied.”

Lord Krishna would be happy that there’s at least someone listening to the timeless advice he imparted to Arjuna many many moons ago “You have the right to work only but never to its fruits.
Let not the fruits of action be your motive.” (Bhagavad Gita: Chapter #2, Verse #47)

#HappyJanmashtami

What’s your IQ (Independence Quotient)?

Free your mind #MondayMorningWakeUpCall #HappyIndependenceDay

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Free your mind… from the demons that are so unkind                                        Image adapted from PharLap Cartoonist

Are you free…

  1. From anger?
  2. From desire?
  3. From greed?
  4. From hate?
  5. From jealousy?
  6. From lust?
  7. From luv?
  8. From pride?
  9. From society?
  10. From your addictions?
  11. From your fears?
  12. From your hopes?
  13. From your passions?
  14. From your possessions?
  15. From your prejudices?

You ain’t free if you’re still a slave to your ego and your emotions, which in essence, is a slave to your mind.

Hint: Free your mind!

#HappyIndependenceDay

Do you have a ‘Jai’ in your life?

Yeh dosti hum nahin todenge #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

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“Veeru.. tuune apne dosti ki kahaani zaroor sunana”

There are Facebook friends and then there are friends like Jai-Veeru

Do you have one friend who –

  1. You can be yourself with or better still, just be?
  2. Call at up 4am. Just.
  3. Is brutally honest with you (for your good, not with the objective of hurting you)?
  4. Who you can be brutally honest with (for your good, not with the objective of hurting your friend)?
  5. Who will sacrifice love, money, life for you?
  6. Who you will sacrifice love, money, life for?

I guess it’s worth trading all the friends on Facebook for one Jai

Hint: Only moments of truth bring out true colours and are tests of genuine friendship. Till then, thank you Facebook J

#HappyFriendshipYear

The secret to productivity

Be present #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

Productivity

 

Which in Zen language is referred to as ‘mindfulness’, in corporate language as ‘single-tasking’ instead of multi-tasking and in English language as ‘undivided attention’.

And productivity will ensue.

Stop measuring days by degree of productivity and start measuring them by degree of presence.

Well that was easy…till you practice it!