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A one sided love affair

A one sided love affair,
Is not a story many would share,
Cos we’ve created a world
Where we are embarrassed with anything short of gold.

But tell me o’ friend
Is it really the end,
When I am lucky to have felt the ecstasy of endless love,
Then to have felt the evanescent joy of a treasure trove.

However the question does remain,
How long do I live with the pain?
The answer that I hear whispered in my ear, 
Is just wait, soon the light I shall see, I need not fear.

The Universe will do what is best,
All I have to do is live in zest.

Give. And a full life you shall live!

“Giving is an act that returns itself double fold.” – Brian Colbert #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

Is Salman Khan reaping the benefits of good karma (or plain and simple ‘giving’ for those who do not believe in the ‘dharma’ of ‘karma’)?

I’m usually wont to offer opinions. I prefer sitting on the fence, watching the show. I’ve been watching ‘Jail Ho’ & ‘Chal Mere Bhai’ jokes and debates over social media and occasionally live. Amidst the ‘Being Human’ cries and the ‘Being Animal’ howls, two quotes, neither related to the Salman verdict, caught my eye.

The first is today’s MondayMorningWakeUpCall. “Giving is an act that returns itself double fold.” – Brian Colbert

The second, “What you meet in life is destiny! How you meet it is free will.” – Swami Chinmayananda.

This is the first line from last Friday’s Speaking Tree article where Swami Chinmayananda goes on to explain how our shastras compare the omnipotent power of God to rain. The rain is common and equal in its blessings to all. Different seeds, nourished by the rain, grow, each to its individual stature, with different qualities.

He compares the tendencies of our mind, called vasanas, to the seeds. They come about, exist, burst into expression, all according to a law. Thought by thought, new channels can be created,­ flowering seeds sown, weeds plucked out, and in time, the jungle in our mind can be rendered into a fragrant garden.

In short, maybe we can carve out our destiny.

I too agree that granting bail to Salman after being convicted, has made a mockery (again!) of our judicial system. I hope these incidents help in shaking and waking up people to create change for the better.

At a fundamental level it’s obvious that Salman is maximizing the benefits of the flaws in our judicial system, maximizing the benefits of being rich and famous. I don’t think that’s cool.

At the same time, at a deeper level, I cannot but help wonder if a higher power, the Universe, is giving back the good he gave, double fold.

For it is in giving that we receive. That I think is cool. (Caveat: Giving, expecting something in return, ain’t)

So you think you can write!

“The two kinds of people are those who think they can write, and those who think they can’t. (And too often both are wrong!) – Ann Handley

Even if we aren’t professional writers, most of our professions require us to write, every day. We write to communicate, to persuade, and with the advent of the internet, simply share. Yet we pay little or no attention to improving our writing skills. Most likely because we think we can write well enough for the person at the other end to understand what we are saying and we can get by our jobs (mostly the ones which are not linked to professional writing) without any real need to improve.

Maybe that’s true. Maybe that’s not.

For reasons beyond my comprehension, I decided to blog from this year (2015). So I figured, if by the off chance, people stumble upon my ramblings, then I owe it to the unfortunate reader to allay the horrors that may come his/her way. With that in mind I recently devoured a highly recommended book by Amazon – Everybody Writes: Your Go-To Guide To Creating Ridiculously Good Content by Ann Handley.

I recommend it too (not highly) if you are looking to improve your writing, for professional purposes or otherwise. She covers 75 very very practical tips that cover how to write better, grammar and usage, telling a story, publishing, social media writing tips and content tools that you can use.

But then I know that you are too busy, which in my parlance is lazy, to read 282 pages of what you think you already are a master at. So in my attempt to earn ‘good karma’ brownie points, I’m sharing my top take away and learnings, (which I shall also try to apply bit by bit), for the good souls who want to improve but are too lazy, er busy to learn. After all, she argues that “writing is a habit, not an art.”

  1. Quality content means content that is packed with clear utility and is brimming with inspiration, and it has relentless empathy for the audience. “Start with empathy. Continue with utility. Improve with analysis. Optimize with love.”
  2. Follow a writing GPS – Good writing takes planning and preparation; it doesn’t just emerge, fully formed, out of the head of Zeus. Or your own head, for that matter.
  3. Organize – Good writing is like math: it has logic and structure. (There’s no single way to organize a piece of writing though)
  4. Swap Places with Your Reader – Good writing serves the reader, not the writer. It isn’t self-indulgent. Good writing anticipates the questions that readers might have as they’re reading a piece, and it answers them.
  5. Develop pathological empathy – Use a customer/audience-centric POV. Replace ‘I’ or ‘we’ with ‘you’ to shift the focus to the audience/customer’s point of view.
  6. Put some extra thought to writing a good lede (Opening). Some ideas are –
    1. Put your reader or someone just like your reader into the story.
    2. Describe a problem your reader can relate to.
    3. Set a stage.
    4. Ask a question.
    5. Quote a crazy or controversial bit of data.
    6. Tell a story or relay a personal anecdote.
    7. Other options – Start with a quote. Use an analogy. Make a bold statement.
  7. Place the most important words (and ideas) at the beginning of each sentence. Hence, phrases to avoid at the start of a sentences – (You can tack them onto the end, or insert them somewhere in the middle—if you must use them at all.)
    1. According to…
    2. There is a…
    3. It is [important, critical, advised, suggested, and so on]…
    4. In my opinion…
    5. The purpose of this [email, post, article] is…
    6. In 2014 [or any year]…
    7. I think [believe] that
  8. Ditch Weakling Verbs – Instead of: In his anger, he accidentally cut his finger. Try: In his anger, he accidentally slashed his finger.
  9. Limit moralizing or preaching. So avoid phrases or words like –
    1. Don’t forget…
    2. Never…
    3. Avoid…
    4. Don’t…
    5. Remember to…
    6. Always remember to…
  10. Break some grammar rules (these 5)
    1. Never start a sentence with and, but, or because.
    2. Avoid sentence fragments. It’s perfectly fine to sparingly add sentence fragments for emphasis. At least, sometimes. (Like that.) (And that too.) (And this.)
    3. Never split infinitives.
    4. Don’t end a sentence with a preposition.
      1. One big unless: “You shouldn’t end a sentence with a preposition when the sentence would mean the same thing if you left off the preposition,” Grammar Girl notes. “That means ‘Where are you at?’ is wrong because ‘Where are you?’ means the same thing.
    5. Never write a paragraph that’s a mere one sentence long.

If you’re still curious for more… social media writing advice, tips like ideal length of FB posts, Tweets, Blog lengths, writing headlines or landing pages or even a repository of content tools to simplify your writing process, you’ll have to take that little bit of extra effort to go through the 282 pages of Everybody Writes: Your Go-To Guide To Creating Ridiculously Good Content by Ann Handley.

What ‘if’?

Our job is ‘if’ – Tony Stark #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

If we can give everyone everywhere access to internet then…

If we can make 77 sales calls in a week then…

If we can run households, cities, countries entirely on solar energy then…

If we can wake up 14 minutes earlier then…

If we can set out to achieve our 6 month goal in 6 weeks then…

If we can make it possible for every child to learn to read then…

If we can take out 14 minutes every day to read then…

If we can put a smile on our customer’s face (or anyone’s face) on every interaction then…

If we can find a cure for anger, greed, pride, envy, self-doubt then…

If we can inspire and enable the busiest, laziest and most apathetic to pursue their passion then…

Then your guess is as good as mine.

Why is life so difficult?

There are times in our life,
When we think it’s not worth the strife.
That we’d rather quit this crap,
Get the hell out of this miserable trap.

Like many if you too think life is hard,
That you’ve been dealt the wrong card,
Maybe it’s time to pause,
Time to reflect upon the cause.

If your mirror does not lie,
And to see the truth you are not shy,
In the reflection you will see,
Life is only as difficult as YOU make it to be.

Relinquish your obsessive need to control all of your existence, 
And the Universe will yield to your every wish, even if it’s nonsense.

#MondayMorningDelight

Waking up to something delightful is always a smashing way to kick start the day #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

A few days ago a friend of mine shared an sms exchange he had with one of his friends (someone I don’t know) a while back.

Piano classes in Mumba

The text exchange of course made my day.

Wake up and smell the coffee is the oft used idiom to jolt us into action. I however think focussing on the remarkable or even notable aspects is a way more powerful tool to ‘wake us up’ and spur us on in full gallop.

It definitely holds true for me. Is it because I don’t drink coffee?

Should we ‘look up’ to Housing.com’s brand campaign?

Look up #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

When I first saw the Housing.com billboards, I didn’t really get what they were trying to say. The alien in me was part searching for UFOs and part wondering if Housing.com is all set to create a housing colony in space already.

Added to that, one of the billboards read “make room for more happiness” and I was mentally cursing them for taking the “happiness” route (cos that’s the route I’m hoping Skillzot takes). At the same time I was silently impressed that they are talking “values” that are higher up the ladder on Maslow’s hierarchy and not about the product or even the benefits.

Fedex talks about ‘peace of mind’, L’Oreal sells ‘self-confidence’, Nike honours ‘great athletes and great athletics’, Housing.com, I figured, wants to be about ‘innovation and optimism’.

They are not talking about having the best interface or exclusive properties or the number of properties listed.

The best marketers know, ‘marketing is about values’.

Good Job!

There are no 2 words in English language more harmful than “good job” (from Whiplash) #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

In the movie Whiplash, Terence Fletcher, a music teacher, is obsessed with pushing his students beyond excellence. While his methods might be questionable, something I personally wouldn’t advocate, his philosophy on “good job” did resonate with me.

What he means by the above quote is that with the intent of encouragement we are developing a culture of being overtly safe in giving feedback. This often results in becoming complacent with our outcome which more often than not results in mediocrity if we do not push ourselves (or get pushed) to pursue excellence.

While one could argue that for many mediocre could be ‘good enough’, that they would be happy with doing a ‘good job’. But for those who have an extra appetite for excellence, I too like Terence Fletcher, would ask you to drop ‘good job’ from your dictionary and turn a deaf ear to the phrase whenever you hear it.

Trincomalee

Had a whale (literally) of an Easter weekend @ Trincomalee.                                                        Thought I’d share it in the form of a poetree.

Thank you Trincomalee for reminding me,
Of the world that we forget to see.
Of the beauty that cannot be painted,
And the miracles that we take for granted.

I always did wonder where the sun hides at night,
Till I saw him emerge from the Trinco sea to share his light,
Like a gracious hero every night he gives way,
For the moon to paint the sea shimmering silver with her ray.

Hypnotic canvas laid, she then put on her greatest most dazzling act, 
A performance for which with us she seems to have a pact,
Swallowing herself, only to teasingly reappear,
Reminding me, the miracles of the universe are truly beyond compare.

The joy of feeling the wind on your face,
Is also cause for immense praise,
Whether while riding at your own pace,
Or simply basking by the moonlight in raptured daze.

The gentle caress of the wave,
Is not much unlike how lovers would behave,
Lovingly stroking your body as if to apologize once more,
For the hurt she caused in the winter of 2004.

One morning I ventured far into the sea,
Torpedoes I thought were coming at me,
But if torpedoes were as harmless as a sperm whale,
Then would it not be a beautiful world to sail?

Where else will you find deer grazing so free?
Or a peacock perched by an open tree?
The marvelous mammoth statue of Lord Shiv,
That is inspiration enough for anyone to live.

Thank you Trincomalee for reminding me,
Of the many colours of the sea,
Of the beauty that cannot be painted,
And the miracles that we should not take for granted.

                                                                                                    

Here are visuals to the verses.

 

Trincamolee

Beauty that cannot be painted (from verse 1)

Sunrise @ Trincomalee

Saw the Sun emerge from the Trinco sea to share his light (from verse 2)

 

Full moon over Trincomalee

Moon painting the sea shimmering silver wither her rays (from verse 2)

Sprem whales in Trincamolee

Whale Tale (from verse 6)

Trincamolee

Deer grazing so free, peacock perched by the tree (from verse 7)

Lord Shiva, Koneswaram Temple

The marvelous mammoth statue of Lord Shiv, is inspiration enough for anyone to live (from verse 7)

Last but not least a word on Chaaya Blu,                                                                                                  A staff always smiling and a view so true,                                                                                                   The days passed by, I knew not how my time flew.

Chaaya Blu, Trincomalee

View from Chaaya Blu, Trincomalee

Would you work for free?

Are you doing what you’d be doing @ work if no one paid you to do it? #MondayMorningWakeUpCall

Nope, it does not mean that you should work for free. If you go by the ‘Joker’s’ philosophy, he says “You should never do anything you’re good at for free.” Neither does it mean you should not want pot loads of money for the value you bring to your organization.

What I’m hinting at is, is what you do at work something you love doing. That it is not a chore you are forced to complete day in and day out. Only then do the lines blur between work and play and you enjoy every moment of your day. Then there is no distinction between week days and weekends, time spent at home or time spent in the office, work days or vacations.

L.P. Jack, a philosopher in the early 19th century, explains this very lucidly. He says, “A master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play; his labor and his leisure; his mind and his body; his education and his recreation. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing, and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing. To himself, he always appears to be doing both.

And Confucius articulates this in one line. “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

An easy way to find the answer to the question is to ask yourself, do you do what you do at work also during your holidays and your free time.